Interesting point.azureeyes wrote: ↑Sat Mar 20, 2021 1:54 amI can't really say I dislike the victimization because that is a huge part of the power dynamics. I can certainly appreciate it, though, I also know it is 100% on me to state my hard and soft limits and when to say stop. That's totally on me, just like it is on the larger person to do the same with me. This is why consent and conversation are so important.i am insane wrote: ↑Fri Mar 19, 2021 10:25 pm
Oh no, you're far from the only one to notice the victimization thing, or to dislike it. There's a thread somewhere on here where a bunch of men on this board confess how awkward this fetish makes them at times, myself included.
As always, I tend to overthink a lot of things and I noticed over the years that misogyny is a huge part of not just this fetish but numerous ones. It is not my obligation educate people as to why that's bad, nor would I, but I do heavily consider my contributions when I write. I find myself asking if the behaviors could contribute negatively to someone's mental state. I don't have to and I'm aware of that and am not obligated to do anything in regards to how someone else behaves due to my work. But, it is still something I do think about and do try to find ways to resolve on my own in my own ways so that I am not worried about any impact.
Consent between adults will never be an issue, whether in rp or in real life. My feelings about what is enjoyed is absolutely none of my business unless I'm asked. It's my own impact on others that I concern myself with.
Victimization, the snatching away of personal choice (pun intended) is somewhat universal in a number of fetishes. Bondage, R-play, D/s, M/s, O/p. I liken it, in terms of play, to a spook house or roller coaster, we wish to be shocked, frightened and even repulsed in some instances, but all within the safety of consent and fantasy. We know the ghost charging at us is nothing more that gauze and glue or some actor in a costume, but for a brief moment our instincts are triggered, offering an adrenaline rush.
For my perspective, I agree, the trope becomes dull and predictable when relied upon to give the entirety of the rush, but we also know, in this unique fantasy of SW, the size differences do limit the activities one can engage. While this is not exclusive to this dynamic, after all, how many times can one be tied and spanked while keeping it fresh? This is why I enjoy a good shock most of all, a dark and twisted tale or one of such wild imagination where I can not predict what may come next.
I would not say I dislike "victimization," but I would say that variety is essential. Lobster every day can become boring.